Discovering My Mojo or Wining Formula
If you like me had no idea what Mojo is, it is a slang for self-confidence or magic formula. It was popularized by the super spy Austin Powers in movies like ‘Austin Powers in Goldmember’. When I was thinking of writing an article about ‘Winning Formula’, my friend suggested that I use the term ‘Mojo’, so here we are.
A few years ago one of my colleagues gave me a good tip about being successful. At that period of time I was competing with my classmates to be the top student. And my classmates did certain things that did not seem to be very honest. I was very disappointed with their behavior and I shared how I felt with a colleague. He told me not be so upset at my classmates’ behavior and that everybody has a wining formula.
He told me what I needed to find my own winning formula, find what made me special and that what will help me to be successful. When I asked him “what is winning formula?” He said “Winning formula is the way that a person achieves what he/she wants and it is unique to everyone.”
This conversation sparked me to start discovering my winning formula.
Today, I would say that my wining formula is a combination of several things. Some of these may work only for me while the rest might be common keys of success that may work for many. Here I want to share some of my winning formulas which are sometimes my strengths or sometimes my weaknesses.
My Winning Formulas
Strong Desire or Will Power
To achieve what I want whilst knowing what exactly it is, I have the full desire and willingness to work toward my goals.
Determination and Persistence
Despite all the obstacles and circumstances I commit myself to move, even with small and shaky steps.
Turning the Difficulties into Challenges
When it comes to obstacles, I see them as a challenge towards growth and learning.
Ability to Say No
Though my favorite answer is ‘Yes’, when it is appropriate to say ‘No’, I wont hesitate and I will say ‘No’.
Being Open to Experiences
I train my brain to be able to think and see multi-dimensionally by doing small steps. For example changing hair style, trying new foods, using different colors and roads etc… I practice to be open to changes such as changing my beliefs etc…
Cleansing Negative Thoughts, Feelings and Memories
I cleanse negative thoughts by writing them down and burning them. I give away some of the stuff which might not be useful for me but might be usable for others. This helps me to get over feelings, emotions and thoughts which bother me.
Adaptability to Situations
If changing the environment is not possible, I adjust to the situation while respecting my own principles and exercise awareness not to forget my ideas.
Analyzing the Situation
I practice to see the situation and observe myself objectively by getting others’ opinion or putting myself in others’ shoes.
Knowing My Weakness and Strengths
I meditate to know myself, my strengths and weaknesses. If it is possible I practice to change my weakness or accept them while appreciating my strengths.
Humility
Practicing humility helps me to understand people easier and enjoy being with them.
Friendship
I do have respect and love for my friends by being sensitive to their feeling and situations, especially for a few wonderful friends who came along my path and changed my life.
Networking or Socializing
Interacting with different people and learning from each individual is like absorbing from an encyclopedia of people .
Continuing Education
I am hungry and strive to learn. I see myself as a life-long student by keeping myself updated with new findings and technology as well as ancient knowledge and philosophy.
Pro-activity
I invest myself wholly in what I am doing whether it is studying, work or relationships.
Creativity
I try to see other possible ways of thinking and analyzing to create new ideas and ways for doing things differently.
Honesty
Being truthful, first to myself and also to people who I am involved with in work, relationships, friendships etc… make my life comfortable.
Acceptance and Respect for Others Beliefs and Opinions
If I sit in another person’s position, I will be able to see from their point of view which gives me a better understanding of them. I will be able to accept them as they are while respecting our differences.
Appreciating Good Things
By giving thanks to people who care about me and appreciating their true being and integrity, I feel good and so do they.
Self Motivation
By seeing the positive side of each incident and event even in my failures, I motivate myself to find a way move forward.
Going Down to the Darkness
I allow myself to feel the sadness, depression and hopelessness whenever I am down. Whilst I accept my vulnerable part of me, I do not stay stuck in the darkness and start to try again.
Taking Risks
Though I think twice before taking risks, I do not want to stop taking risks in various aspects.
Searching for Mentor
Although I believe we can always learn something from each individual, yet there are very few special people who have changed my life by opening my eyes to the new perspectives.
Doing Voluntary Work
I believe volunteer work is a way of giving and receiving while helping and learning.
Investing in My Physical and Mental Health and Well-Being
Sometimes it needs money, time or attention to take care of myself.
Grasping the Opportunities
I remind myself to make the best use of each opportunity.
Reading Books or Listening to Success Stories of Others
I may find what would be suitable for me according to my individuality and specific situation by knowing more about others’ success stories.
Feeling The Happiness
I remind myself to enjoy what I have and I am not too worried about what I don’t have.
Persistence
I make efforts for what I want and try not to give up and keep going by being resilient.
Patience
Sometimes I may even go a longer way and wait patiently to achieve what I want.
Positive Attitude
In whatever I do, I practice to do it with gratefulness and positive attitude toward people. As a result I receive a better feedback.
Respect but not Always Obey
With respect for the social norms and others opinion, I still follow my own way and principals.
Accepting and Learning from the Past instead of Suppressing or Denying it
Accepting the past and empathizing with what so ever that happened or I what I may have done, I feel relief and able to learn from the past and move on.
Loving Human Beings from All Walks of Life, Religion, Nationalities and Loving Children as Pure Creatures.
Above all, the most important secret is that I am a human with all the humanity, physical, emotional and psychological aspects. These features make me a unique individual and not a prefect person. I meditate to discover, accept and love who I am whilst have thirst for growth and self-improvement. I do whatever I can do and I believe if you have a target you have to shoot all your bullets to get at least one on target.