Believe in Your Child as You Did Before
Do you trust in your child’s ability now in the same way that you did when your child was very young?
Remember when your child tried to talk or to walk, how excited were you at that time? Do you remember how encouraging you were, how patient you were in guiding your child’s efforts to be able to walk or run?
Remember when you wanted to teach him the words “Mama” and ” Papa”, you were so excited and patiently taught him things about the “World”, “Life”, “Danger”, Good”, “Bad” etc…?
Have you lost your faith in your son or your daughter? If so, why?
- Is it because you refuse to accept that your child might have outgrown your knowledge as compared to when your child was young and dependent on your advice?
- Is it because your child has started to think differently and you have lost your faith in his maturity?
- Maybe he started to think that his way is different from your way and he left you to go on his own way which you might think to be wrong.
- Maybe you have been the witness of his failures from time to time; in school, relationships, career, etc…
Remember yourself when your child was young. You did not blame him for falling down when he wanted to learn how to walk. But instead you held his hand and walked with him. You always encouraged him in his small steps. Are you still an encouraging parent or do you now blame your child for his failures and faults?
From the time you stopped believing in him, small distances were created between you and your child. This might have made him lose faith in himself. He may have started thinking “I can’t do well!”, “I can’t be good enough”, or “I can’t succeed”.
Regardless of how old your child is, he or she still needs your faith and approval.
Start to trust your child and let him know that you still believe in him. Let him know that you still have faith in his abilities and his potential. Show him that you still love him more and not less than before in-spite of the differences between the both of you.
He needs to know that you still have faith in him and that you still love him. It is also your need to believe in your child and love him.
By trusting your child you will be witnessing your child blooming and growing, This will give both of you a sense of achievement and satisfaction.