We All Need Someone to Listen to Our Stories (Part II)
“Who we love, we listen to! What we love, we listen to!”
I have heard these beautiful and meaningful sentences today. I would like to talk more about it here in relation to part one: We All Need Someone to Listen to Our Stories (Part I).
Do we listen to whom we love?
My answer is: we usually like to listen to the person we love; however if we do not listen to our loved ones, it does not mean that we do not love them.
Do we listen to what we love?
It is also true that we do listen to what we love; but it does not mean we can always listen to what we love or love what we hear. Sometimes we even have to listen to what we do not love!
Are there other factors involved in effective listening and dynamic communications?
I brought these two meaningful and familiar concepts to question them and to place emphasis on the other factors which are involved in effective listening and communication.
As we discussed in the previous article in the series, and considering the first concept from the above paragraph, one might conclude that it is better to share our story with people who they love us, therefore they will listen to us because of their love.
But another conclusion is also reachable from the second concept (we listen to what we love), that it is better to say what people love to hear in terms of being listened to. Does it make sense to always say what the others like or love to hear?
So, what are the other factors involved in effective listening and dynamic communication?
If we review the real-life examples in the previous article in the series, in all of the three examples, there are some common factors impacted by the situations. Place, time, human feelings, emotions, past incidents and brain activity etc… are several factors that effect the dynamics of communication. Moreover in each example, we have at least two active people involved, which influences all the above mentioned factors in each individual.
Communication is a dynamic process indeed!
We need to be mindful about who and what we are sharing with or listening to. It is only when we share our stories in an engaged environment that we feel understood and are able to understand others.
Share the right story with the right person at the right time and in a right manner.
Watch out for part III of this article.
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